Scientists Claim the Eldest Child Is the Smartest of All the Siblings, and Here’s What It Means for Parents
Older siblings in many families usually have
exceptional intellect and talents. Take Alec Baldwin, Francis Edward Bache, and
even the famous Dr. Spock, as perfect examples. Scientists suggest that our
birth order and the birth order of our children has a lot to do with our
intelligence and other abilities!
Bright Side is always an advocate of
knowledge, especially when it comes to better understanding our shortcomings
and talents. Here is an article that will captivate your attention, even if you
are not an older sibling yourself.
How did we figure this out?
In the year 2017, research at the University
of Edinburgh revealed the studies of IQ tests among same-parent siblings that
showed that due to the mental stimulation from parents, older siblings show
higher levels of thinking skills. When the siblings were tested on emotional
development, however, there were almost no differences.
Researchers followed over 5,000 siblings,
from birth to 14 years old. Every two years these kids were IQ-tested in a
variety of ways and older siblings were shown to perform better at each
subsequent age.
What is the “birth order effect”?
According to Meri Wellace, birth order has a
tremendous impact on firstborns, those born second and middle children. While
firstborns are more intellectually developed, they can struggle with the
parental pressure to be perfect. Kids born second are usually prone to having
less attention from parents when it comes to their achievements — so they
thrive on approval. And middle children often feel lonely and “squeezed out,”
so parents have to make sure that they spend enough time with them.
How do parents contribute?
With their first child, parents often want to
succeed both emotionally and intellectually, almost like they are running some
sort of race to raise the perfect kid. Combine that with a lack of knowledge
about actually raising a human being and in the end you will have a child that
is bombarded with the attention and drive of their parents, to make something
of themselves. That is why firstborns are usually pushed to succeed and develop
intellectually.
How do siblings contribute?
After the firstborn becomes “one of the kids”
and not just the only child in a family, it can affect them in a way that makes
them mature faster. Since the child’s mother is preoccupied with a newborn,
sometimes the first child feels left out and gains their parents’ approval by
helping them take care of their younger sibling. This leads to these children
taking over parental responsibilities at a very young age and this status is
usually supported by the family. This is often why the oldest child becomes
smarter and really mature for their age.
How can this be changed?
Since academic and intellectual success is
directly affected by parental attention and affection, we have to acknowledge
that kids who lack in parental interaction and who lack in time spent with
their parents show lower abilities, especially when it comes to learning and
IQ.
How can this be applied?
If we know the flaws in our parenting skills
that occur subconsciously, we can predict the outcome. But more so, we can
implement this knowledge in our everyday parenting scenarios. We can start by
not over pressuring our oldest ones and splitting attention evenly between our
children. Also, open conversations and trust, along with the authority of
parental knowledge, will help you maintain thriving relationships and create a
solid foundation for your kids to step up from childhood into adulthood.
What special traits do you see in your
siblings or children? Does your everyday life support the findings of these
scientists? Be sure to share your thoughts with us in the comments!
SOURCE: BRIGHTSIDE
SOURCE: BRIGHTSIDE
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