Tips on How to Build a Lasting Relationship

Tips on How to Build a Lasting Relationship

Elizabeth spits, “I want to end this hopeless relationship; Edward is a cheat, a pathological liar and an unserious flirt; he only acts nice when he wants that thing. This rubbish has to end, I am done with him and this time, we are never ever getting back together.” She concluded in a very harsh tone.

Emeka’s story is quite an unusual and a pathetic one, he explains in a sober tone how his 15 years marriage came to a halt because of his wife’s sexual promiscuity. “I don’t think I would ever forgive that woman. In fact, I curse the day I met and fell in love with her, and I despise her!” He exclaimed, in a very gloomy voice overwhelmed by tears he fought so hard to hold back.

James has lost hope on finding true love; “This is the seventh time a lady would break my heart, I am done because I do not want to end up having post traumatic disorders, heart attacks or dead, I just want to be happy again even if that means that I have to be alone. I have accepted my fate.” He said.

We are familiar with all these kinds of terrifying statements and horrible stories, especially from close friends, family members, our pals and peers. Unarguably, the female gender is particularly venerable to failed relationships and marriages because of their feminine nature, they are naturally terrible stock absorbers and they tend to react extremely to such inglorious setbacks.

The Oxford Advanced Learner dictionary defines a relationship, has a way in which two people, group or countries behaves towards each other or deal with each other, it’s also explains that a relationship could be a long and/or sexual friendship between two people. Similarly, the Encarta dictionary refers to a relationship as, an emotionally close friendship, especially one involving sexual activity. Regrettably, a reliable statistical data states that more than two in every three relationships and/or marriages do not work out, a substantial figure end in the first three months of the union and this sad fact is one of the leading causes of suicide worldwide.

In subsequent paragraphs, I would list and examine some useful tips that can/should/would make things get better between you and your spouse/partner in no particular order, they are listed and explained below;

·        Honesty- The honest true is that no relationship; whether sexual or platonic, would survive a day without honesty. This virtue extols the supremacy of truth and why it should be given the utmost consideration at all times. We should always try to speak the truth at all times even when it is not convenience because honesty builds trust and confidence. These two are extremely important for any serious relationship to stand the test of time and to navigate through the stormy waters of our everyday life. The English dictionary describes honesty as the quality of being honest and the same dictionary states that an honest person is someone who always tells the truth and never takes what belongs to others without their express or implied consent. Wole is that kind of person; are you? LOL.

·        Communication- Communication is the basis of any and every social interaction. There are two major types of Communication; the verbal and the non verbal forms of communication. Partners should ensure that they communicate their feelings and opinions on important and trivial matters because it the bane of all human relationships. No relationship can get better than the level of rapport of the lovers in the affair. We should all ensure that we express our feelings, thoughts and opinions to our partners and others persons directly or indirectly affecting us without making harmful and derogatory statements.

·        Trust- According to a foremost philosopher (Name Unknown), Trust is a peculiar resource; it is built rather than depleted by use. Trust is vital in every human relationship. In the real sense of the word, there is no serious relationship without trust. Please ensure you are trustworthy and make sure you trust your spouse except if he/she has proven otherwise. We can also built trust through the following ways; Open communication, Willingness to share; Consistency in behaviour, actions and words; and reliability.

·        Love- Love conquers all. The whole world would crash in a matter of seconds if love is evaporated from our souls. Love is the most noble of all human feelings. We should endeavour to show that we love and care about everyone around us because it has never been short in supply. The scriptures encourages us to love our neighbours as we would; ourselves. Love and generosity should be exhibited towards those we exclaim are an important part of our lives. We should make sure we show that we care and give our utmost attention to our partners from the little things we unconsciously overlook to the major stuffs that make headlines and head turns. Love is all we should give because love is all we need. Love is life, Love is everything.

·        Prayer- Talking to God is inviting him to direct our paths. God is always available to be called upon for help and direction anytime and every time. As much as I would not like to sound like a cleric, I want to state categorically to everyone reading this piece that he is my friend and he is more than a friend, whatever he is invited to turns out to be positive. I pray every minute (sometimes, I even pray in the restroom. Shh, don’t tell anybody o. Lol). Pray about your clothes, about your meals, tell him about your difficult boss, talk to him about that impossible target, confide in him, he sees your hearts, he knows you are genuinely in love with her, I promise that he would help you win her heart if the two of you are destined for each other. Please talk to him. He is the ultimate counsellor.

God Bless Us All

                                             

Olusanya, Oluwole Sheriff